Many of my clients come to me because they're at their wits end that their heads are full of negative thoughts.
They can't seem to get control of their thoughts so they're exasperated and they say "I spend so much time trying to do the positive thinking thing, the affirmations thing and even visualisations but it doesn't work!"
They say "I even meditate to get rid of them. And I'm so confused because I'm doing all the right things and they're still there!"
And I agree with them completely.
Negative thoughts ARE unhelpful.
And sometimes they DO dominate and take on a life of their own.
And, when we can't control them, they have very little value, so yes, let's change them.
My clients are right on the money y'know? They're looking to improve themselves and they know they won't get to where they want to be without having a positive mindset.
But here's the thing they DON'T know
And here's the thing most people don't know
Negative thoughts are NOT the problem.
They are the OUTCOME of the problem
They are the SYMPTOM of a deeper issue
They are the result of things going on below the surface
The truth is: negative thinking is the RESULT of trapped emotions and blocked energy
Emotional blocks are created when an issue is unresolved it's undischarged energy, STILL sitting in our systems; it's trapped; looking for a way out
That's why it's the same thoughts over and over
That's why it's the same feelings over and over
That's why it's the same pattern over and over
It's a memory or an event that's unresolved, undischarged and trapped in the system
And that's the reason why positive thinking doesn't work
Positive thinking is the ultimate outcome, it's not a solution; it CANT be the solution!
Think of it like this:
You're driving your car when you hear a clunking sound coming from the engine. You're alarmed but you really want your car to run properly. You don't want to think your car has a problem, so you really don't want to hear the sound. The solution? Ignore it. Turn on the radio to drown it out.
But the sound just gets louder, so you wind the window up. And then over time, the sound just gets louder and faster. It's at that point you decide to address it by focusing on the positive things. Thinking it's a great idea, you think about the positive attributes of my car as a solution to the clunkiness. And you start looking at all the wonderful parts of the car that you love so much.
"Oh, the colour of my car is wonderful" and "I really love how fast my car goes" and "my car has wonderful air conditioning"...
Essentially, positive thinking ignores the problem and seeks to smother the niggling issue with positivity.
Distract, ignore and smother.
They don't address the REAL reason, the deeper reason, the negative thoughts are there in the first place.
So, how do we get around this?
My suggestion is we learn to address our issues at their core, not at their symptoms
We need to dig deeper
Because positivity WILL come. Happiness and ease WILL come. Lightness and flow WILL come.
We just have to eliminate what's between us and it, FIRST
Eliminate - not distract or smother
Because, the truth is, a band aid doesn't heal
Unblocking the trapped energy and discharging the emotion at it's roots is what heals